Friday 2 February 2018

Ridiculous Revenge

Some people view estranged parents who claim to suffer due to being separated from their children by the other parent as weak, but they could not be more wrong. Being a parent opens up a world of overwhelming responsibility and love, and we are programmed to do anything to protect our children. Unfortunately, this unconditional love makes us vulnerable to the pain inflicted when someone separates us from our children or undermines our ability to be a responsible parent. Deliberately separating a loving parent from their child and abusing them indefinitely is a way of inflicting severe and ongoing pain on them, but it is not in the best interest of the child.
The symptoms that abused children often manifest are alarming and it is appalling to think that a parent could knowingly hurt their child to hurt their former partner. Parental alienation is abuse, and it is now recognized as such by Cafcass. It is a blunt instrument deliberately contrived by one parent to hurt the other by hurting the one thing they have in common still, their children. The goal is to permanently sever the relationship between their ex and the children either by making them back away in fear or out of guilt generated by the impact their persistence is having on the children. The perpetrators play the victim in the process.
Imagine the mess it makes of a child's mind when they are forced to reject the parent trying to do what is right in favour of the one who holds all the power over them. The targeted parent experiences similar symptoms to those displayed by the abused children over time. They can never rest as the empowered targeting parent constantly changes their schedules and childcare patterns at will. It prevents them from focusing on their careers, well-being, and new relationships because they become obsessed with the abuse of their children. Parental alienation emotionally and often financially destroys the alienated parent. It is almost invisible to third parties who find it hard to believe anyone would stoop so low.
Parental alienation is the perfect revenge for the immoral perpetrator. It empowers them completely, enmeshes the children in the same way Stockholm Syndrome brainwashes captives desperate to survive. It is entirely counter-productive, destroying that which it purports to protect by undermining the earning capacity of the non-resident parent. It also creates a chain of problems for the children that will poison their future. With 1 in 3 marriages ending in divorce and parent alienation spreading like a virus, we cannot ignore the fast-growing evidence that the rates of unhappiness and depression among young people are growing at a frightening rate.

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